Saturday, February 16, 2008

The Cut Off

With all the planning that goes into a wedding, you'd think that the most stressful thing would be last-minute preparations, right? Kerry has done an amazing job of managing everything and when information overload occurs, I tell her to stop breathe and we'll sleep on it. It usually works. Yet, what we are finding is that something that should be simpler and resolved keeps coming back to bite us... the cut off for the guest list.

Neither of us want a huge ceremony. So we started with our immediate family and added friends that we see the most (which includes some co-workers as we spend 1/3 of our lives with them.) We drew the line at some of the family that we barely ever see. This was difficult. Sure, most of them live quite a distance from Las Vegas. She has cousins and family on her side that she hasn't seen in decades (as well as some she's never met.) I would love to have some more of my family in Sacramento (heck, some check out the blog) come out for it but know that rearranging their schedules and driving/flying out for one day for a 15 minute ceremony and late lunch doesn't balance out. And again there is the cut off as we are already at capacity seating for the ceremony. Kerry has already fielded calls (and she thinks offended) a member of her family as they had announced the wedding to some of their family neither of us know and proposed a family reunion to occur at the same time. This created a few waves. Both of us would rather just run off and elope than deal with that kind of stress. But, rationally, the end of the line has to be drawn somewhere and we've paid too much to walk away now.

So, that now off my chest, I can express to you the good news. There is a way to view it from your computer. So, I'm giving you an official invite to virtually come to my wedding. I'll be reposting it on Mar. 30th.

Ceremony will be available to view on line at approx. 3pm Pacific Time on March 30th and will be up for 30 days.

Please follow these steps to view a wedding ceremony on line. All ceremonies will be broadcast Pacific Standard Time on our web cam providing the wedding couple has signed a web cam release. This will be verified prior to the start of the ceremony. If you are not viewing from home, but rather a place of business, please check your firewalls, which may prohibit you from viewing.

You will need to have Windows Media Player on your computer. If you do not have this program, there is a free download available on our web site.

*Streaming or downloading a ceremony may take several minutes depending on whether you have a dial up connection or a cable modem.

Log on to
Click on Amenities located on the tool bar at the top of the screen.
Select Wedding Chapel
Beneath the Forever Grand Wedding Chapel photograph, click on Services
Scroll down and click on the plus sign next to Webcam
Click on the web cam link:
Once you have reached the Cashman Professional link, you are able to view Live and Past wedding ceremonies by following the applicable prompts.


LoraLoo said...

That is sooooo cool! Can't wait to see it.

I am willing to bet just about every engaged couple has the very same issues the two of you are facing. I know we did (minus the family reunion thing, that's sounding like a lot of pressure). I can sit and recall any one of my friends' weddings and recall struggles with the guest list. In the end, all that matters is that two people who love each other are getting married.

Anonymous said...

What a great idea. It's nice that family and friends who can't be there in person can virtually be there with you and Kerry.

David Amulet said...

That is a great idea for those who cannot make it. There is no perfect solution to the "who to invite" questions that arise ... but you have developed an elegant answer!

-- david